It’s 5:30 am on Day 23 of the 30-Day Blog series. The sun is just coming up, soft music is playing in the background and my peppermint tea tastes especially soothing as I sit down to write for you. The mug I selected was given to me by my mom last May. It depicts the little guy from Dr. Seuss’ “Oh The Places We Go,” confidently perched atop a colorful Seuss-like pillar.
“Oh, the places I’ve been,” I thought to myself. Now 57, I can look back over decades of adventures that shaped and molded who I am today. Whether traveling abroad, heading to graduate school, creating memories with loved ones or starting a new business, the road I’ve traveled has been windy and delicious.
My thoughts then turn to my current adventure… this 30-day blog series. With only 7 days left, I decided to go back in my journal to the entry I made the day before I started this writing sojourn. What was my intention? What was I hoping to gain and give? And more importantly, was it truly happening?
Here is what I wrote on May 31st:
- To offer my favorite strategies that will change how you see and grow your business.
- To share my thoughts on how to succeed in business without losing your soul or your sanity.
- To let you know you are not alone as you navigate the fear, doubt, worry and overwhelm that comes with growing a business.
- To create a deeper connection with you and plant the seed that I am here to help you take your business to the next level.
Cool, I can check off each one. Since we began, I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know many of you and the honor of welcoming some into one of our biz-growth programs. That makes me happy.
But, if I am honest with myself, there is one intention that I’ve not fully delivered on…
- To practice what I preach by allowing myself to be vulnerable, authentic and seen.
Now by anyone’s standards, you could say that I’ve been vulnerable and authentic all the way through. My personal shares have enabled you to breathe a sigh of relief, knowing that what you are feeling is healthy, normal and expected.
But it’s the final promise… to be seen, where I know I have fallen short.
What is it about filming videos that makes me feel so incredibly uncomfortable?
As I typically do whenever I am searching for new answers, I took the question into a dialogue with Source. (Insert God here if it feels better for you.)
Me: I’m wanting to know what’s behind my resistance to being seen on video.
Source: Me too. So… I’ll ask you that question. What’s behind your resistance to being seen on video, Jane? (I love that Source has a sense of humor.)
Me: It feels like an invasion of my privacy. I don’t like how I look on camera. It’s a pain in the butt to do.
Source: Anything else?
Me: No, not really.
Source: OK. How does that feel to get that down on paper?
Me: Good. They also don’t feel so big when I look at them from this perspective.
Source: Good. Which reason is the truest for you – the thing that’s really holding you back?
Me: While it is a bit of a pain, I’ve never been one to shy away from learning something new so I wouldn’t say I’m avoiding it because it’s a pain to do.
Source: That’s good.
Me: While I’m not crazy about how I look, I am embracing the fact that I’m getting older. With these years comes wisdom and I am proud of that.
Source: Good. What’s left then?
Me: The feeling that it’s an invasion of my privacy.
Source: Jane, what if I were to tell you that you being seen on video is a gift you can give to your tribe? What if your willingness to step outside your comfort zone might inspire others who are letting their resistance to video stop them from playing a bigger game in their business? And what if I reminded you that you made a promise to the tribe and you always keep your promises.
Me: (Long pause.) Well, when you put it that way, I guess it’s a no-brainer. Me getting uncomfortable in the name of serving the tribe and keeping my promise is a small price to pay. I love the idea that right now, there is someone needing a nudge to be seen. I love that in my getting uncomfortable I might inspire others to push through and play a bigger game with me.
Source: There you are! I knew this part of you would show up if we reframe it in the context of your purpose, mission and movement. So … are you game?
Me: Yes, I’m game.
And so it went, early this morning in my dialogue with Source around the one promise I have not kept.
As I sit with the thought of filming for you I recalled a conversation with my coach, John Dulworth, as we explored my reluctance to filming video a few weeks back.
“How about your mom, Jane. She’s nearly 90 years old and hosts a syndicated cooking show for God’s sake. She’s on camera every week right there in her kitchen. Do you think she worries about her wrinkles?”
His question made me smile. You see my mom is amazing. At the age of 89 she hosts her own cooking show for Shell Point, a retirement village in Florida. She recently filmed her 200th episode of “What’s Cooking.” If you ask her why she pushed through the early stages of feeling self-conscious on camera, she will tell you, “Because it makes people happy and that’s what I love to do.”
So, dear reader, I’m going to follow in my mom’s footsteps, walk my talk and finish out this 30-Day blog series with five videos filmed just for you. It will be an experiment in letting go of my need to make it perfect, have a good hair day or say just the right thing.
Are you with me?
Is there a place in your business that you have been holding back because it’s uncomfortable? Is it reaching out to someone you know you are supposed to work with? Is it committing to a project or program that could be a game-changer in your business? Or perhaps it’s allowing yourself to be seen by filming and posting a video.
“Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious.” ~Rumi.
As I read Rumi’s words, I feel a wave of courage run through me. Once I shift from it being all about me to it being all about YOU, filming five videos seems a small price to pay to align with my core value of contribution.
If it’s a resounding (or even timid) YES, here are a few nudges…
Nudge #1: Do the thing you fear the most to live the life you truly want.
Life is meant to be an endless adventure of discovery and evolution. Leaning into the discomfort and then watching how you show up and kick-ass when you are called to do something bold, is an exciting way to evolve into the person you are meant to become.
Nudge #2: Use PDA (Public Display of Accountability) to hold yourself to a higher standard.
If you are like me, you are often more willing to do something for others than you are for yourself. When I made a promise those promises to you on the first day of this blog series, I put my stake in the ground and there was no turning back. What can you claim publicly to move yourself into action?
Nudge #3: Surround yourself with support.
One of the biggest mistakes we make along this path to growing our business is to try to do it alone. It makes it more difficult, slows your progress and is not very fun. This is where I hope to come in. My remarkable team and I are standing by to support you no matter where you are on your path – just starting out or a seasoned pro. Click here to request a call with someone on my team about where you want to take your business.
Will you help me decide what to film?
To make the final five Vlogs super juicy and meaningful, I’d love your help. What challenges are you facing? Where are you feeling blocked? What tough decision do you need to make? What goal are you wanting to achieve?
Each day I will tap into my 30-years of business-building to answer a question.
As coaches, trainers and mentors it’s our job to clear the trail for those we are leading. While it can be scary and uncomfortable, it can also be the most rewarding aspect of the work we are here to do.
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